The Perfect Prom Dress

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My youngest daughter is quite the fashionista.  She loves to dress up and is very picky about the types of clothes that she wears.  Unlike many teens her age, she loves to wear dresses or dressy tops with scarves.  Matter of fact, the clothing selection, 15 dollar challenge and Fashion Revue judges for 4-H have commented that they would love to see her wear something else (7 years of always wearing a dress for each competition). With Prom approaching, she comes up with several criteria for her Prom dress.

  1. Needs to have sleeves (she wants to be a good role model)
  2. Needs to have a back (see number 1)
  3. Simple Style
  4. Must make her feel like a princess when she put the dress on.
  5. Only one piece (she didn’t want a two piece dress)
  6. Total price of the dress had to be under $50.00

I was convinced that we either would never find a dress that fit her criteria or else it would cost me a fortune or I would have to take a chance and order it online.

Thankfully she loves to shop at second-hand stores.  Last Saturday we went to Salvation Army.  She found a blazer, dress top, and another top for her business suit but no luck on the Prom dress.  Oh, there was one that she fell in love with, but sadly it was about 1 size too small and wouldn’t zip up.  So today we went to Goodwill after school.  This time we were looking for a black skirt to go with the blazer and dress top (she needs a business casual outfit for an interview in a couple of weeks, some casual dresses and if we were lucky one prom dress.  Lucky wasn’t the word.  The second item we found was the prom dress and it fit like a glove.  I made her take a couple of others back to try on also, but the one her heart was set on was the one that fit and looked gorgeous on her.  She also found a black skirt for her interview and a couple of casual dresses with sleeves for the spring/fall.  SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURES

Best thing ever when they rang up the dress it rang up for only $5.88.  For that price, I think I can swing a pair of shoes and maybe a necklace, earrings, and bracelet.

What do teenagers really need?

I received this note the other day from a student, she was writing in response to what topic she wanted to do for her research paper.

“I want to research Privacy for Teenagers, because I think giving privacy to them can cause some bad actions when you’re giving them to much privacy then that’s whey sneaking around and getting influenced comes along. I think that every teenager should yes have privacy but not in the way the parents now are giving it to him or her. I know from experience. My parents aren’t strict and I get away with a lot and if I had stricter parents I feel like I would be a way better kid. Also I want to research about this for parents whose children ask for privacy and need some answers on why it’s actually a good thing and they will most likely thank you in the future.

This of course reminded me of a conversation I had with a student many years ago.  He was always getting into trouble but was really good for me.  I pulled him aside and asked him why he was misbehaving in all of his other classes, but not for me.  He looks at me for a minute and then replies after thinking, do you really want the truth?  Of course I do, why else would I have asked you.  His answer was profound, I want my dad to tell me NO.  I want him to take an interest and care that I am making the right choices.

If only other parents and teachers could hear these two students and others like them.  Yes, our kids really want and need their parents in their lives.  I know that at times I am guilty of giving in when I shouldn’t, probably more with my students than my own children, but as adults in charge of helping the next generation become grow up and become productive members of society, lets all ban together and help each other out by giving the kids what they really want and need.