Not Done, but it is Okay

I had a long list of things that I wanted to accomplish before Kristen’s graduation and party.  Here is an update on how I am doing.  I didn’t come close to finishing everything, especially the scrapbooks/photo albums.  But you know what, that is okay.  We will put out what I have done and the rest of it will wait.  I will be able to finish these albums up during the summer and next school year.  I am sure that her party will still be okay. Because of course, it isn’t about having the perfect party, but instead about the family and friends that come to help us celebrate.

  1. Guest sign in book
  2. Card box
  3. Drama album
  4. Volleyball album
  5. Basketball album
  6. Freshman album
  7. Sophomore album
  8. Junior album
  9. Senior album
  10. Baby album
  11. Preschool album
  12. grade school albums
  13. Middle school albums
  14. Baby album
  15. Preschool album
  16. 300 mints made (Kristen can do this while on break)  March 27
  17. Congrats banner
  18. Cards for her and all of the other friends graduating
  19. Early years display board (Kristen can work on)
  20. Kindergarten-8th-grade display board (Kristen can work on)
  21. High school display board (Kristen can work on)
  22. 4-H display board (Kristen can work on)
  23. Brownie Mortar board cakes
  24. Open house invitation designed (will order mid-April)
  25. Guest List created (Kristen can do this while on break this week.)
  26. Senior Picture book made and ordered
  27. I’m done and I’m starting posters made for the photo shoot.  April 4
  28. Party Signs April 4
    1. Instagram
    2. Leave advice
    3. address an envelope

The Perfect Prom Dress


My youngest daughter is quite the fashionista.  She loves to dress up and is very picky about the types of clothes that she wears.  Unlike many teens her age, she loves to wear dresses or dressy tops with scarves.  Matter of fact, the clothing selection, 15 dollar challenge and Fashion Revue judges for 4-H have commented that they would love to see her wear something else (7 years of always wearing a dress for each competition). With Prom approaching, she comes up with several criteria for her Prom dress.

  1. Needs to have sleeves (she wants to be a good role model)
  2. Needs to have a back (see number 1)
  3. Simple Style
  4. Must make her feel like a princess when she put the dress on.
  5. Only one piece (she didn’t want a two piece dress)
  6. Total price of the dress had to be under $50.00

I was convinced that we either would never find a dress that fit her criteria or else it would cost me a fortune or I would have to take a chance and order it online.

Thankfully she loves to shop at second-hand stores.  Last Saturday we went to Salvation Army.  She found a blazer, dress top, and another top for her business suit but no luck on the Prom dress.  Oh, there was one that she fell in love with, but sadly it was about 1 size too small and wouldn’t zip up.  So today we went to Goodwill after school.  This time we were looking for a black skirt to go with the blazer and dress top (she needs a business casual outfit for an interview in a couple of weeks, some casual dresses and if we were lucky one prom dress.  Lucky wasn’t the word.  The second item we found was the prom dress and it fit like a glove.  I made her take a couple of others back to try on also, but the one her heart was set on was the one that fit and looked gorgeous on her.  She also found a black skirt for her interview and a couple of casual dresses with sleeves for the spring/fall.  SAMSUNG CAMERA PICTURES

Best thing ever when they rang up the dress it rang up for only $5.88.  For that price, I think I can swing a pair of shoes and maybe a necklace, earrings, and bracelet.

What do teenagers really need?

I received this note the other day from a student, she was writing in response to what topic she wanted to do for her research paper.

“I want to research Privacy for Teenagers, because I think giving privacy to them can cause some bad actions when you’re giving them to much privacy then that’s whey sneaking around and getting influenced comes along. I think that every teenager should yes have privacy but not in the way the parents now are giving it to him or her. I know from experience. My parents aren’t strict and I get away with a lot and if I had stricter parents I feel like I would be a way better kid. Also I want to research about this for parents whose children ask for privacy and need some answers on why it’s actually a good thing and they will most likely thank you in the future.

This of course reminded me of a conversation I had with a student many years ago.  He was always getting into trouble but was really good for me.  I pulled him aside and asked him why he was misbehaving in all of his other classes, but not for me.  He looks at me for a minute and then replies after thinking, do you really want the truth?  Of course I do, why else would I have asked you.  His answer was profound, I want my dad to tell me NO.  I want him to take an interest and care that I am making the right choices.

If only other parents and teachers could hear these two students and others like them.  Yes, our kids really want and need their parents in their lives.  I know that at times I am guilty of giving in when I shouldn’t, probably more with my students than my own children, but as adults in charge of helping the next generation become grow up and become productive members of society, lets all ban together and help each other out by giving the kids what they really want and need.